Have you ever wondered how much reengagement from the withdrawer is enough before going to pursuer softening in Stage 2? Here’s a bit of an answer – Of course we’re without research here, even the newest research doesn’t really cover this particular question. In my experience, having a withdrawer that’s reassuring is different than a […]
Gotta love this guy and his research – I hope you enjoy and learn how important attachment really is to our health and well being.
For those of you who like visuals, here’s an expansion of Scott Woolley’s cycle loop by EFT Supervisor June Shigeno. I’d love it if you commented on what stands out for you that you think is helpful conceptually, this will assist those who aren’t so visual. Please leave your comments.
The Five Process Moves Of EFT, by Sue Johnson
I was part of a recent discussion on what common problems therapists have trying to learn EFT. My esteemed colleague Jim Furrow wrote up his top 10. I liked his list so well, and I think you will too. I suggest you take one skill on the list per week and focus on improving each […]
Today I share a poem by Certified EFT Therapist and Supevisor-In-Training Jennifer Olden about learning Emotionally Focused Therapy. LOVE HERO by Jennifer Olden To the discouraged EFT therapist You will fail. Utterly. Profoundly. You will fail. There will be a failed enactment, a failed session and a failed couple. And more than one. Just settle […]
Some of you have been reading the discussion on the EFT list about therapist shame in learning a new treatment model and how being back in a vulnerable learning place can trigger our own shame. The book: Shame In The Therapy Hour came up as helpful in the discussion. I was so excited about this […]
I was fortunate to present on using technology at the EFT Summit with professional videographer, recording artist and musician extraordinaire Rick Savage. One cool thing I learned from him is to FORMAT your video card after you transfer your files off of it EVERY TIME. He explained that what can happen, and commonly happens, is […]
What do you think of this little video that overviews the Transforming Shame training coming up this week? Go here to learn more: http://trieft.org/events/master/shame
Yes, it gets tricky – because she doesn’t just withdraw – she also protests. It is disorganizing for us as therapists to hold and manage that – the confusion and disorganization. One minute hiding the next attacking. It sounds like she experiences you as trying to protect her at times, which she doesn’t like, it […]
