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So much of the time what I see therapist’s struggle with is accessing the primary emotion of the withdrawer and really attuning with the person in that position in the negative cycle.

You know that when you’re working with couples as an EFT therapist, you’ll determine partner positions from the couple seated in front of you. The pursuer and the withdrawer. Over the course of your therapeutic relationship you’ll understand more about each person as you facilitate their change, but your goal will always be to support both partners to achieve a safe state of emotional balance and love, between one another and within their own experience.

Today, I’m taking a moment to give you some tips on working with the withdrawers in distressed relationships.

First, it’s important to remember, the withdrawer struggles to tolerate discussion of sensitive topics and is often uncomfortable with emotional expression and experience. You will observe the withdrawer Read More