Thoughts from last EFT Summit
Here are some words from Sue Johnson from the 2010 EFT Summit about what we do and don’t do as EFT therapists. It’s a wonderful review.
“EFT is kinda different. We don’t teach problem solving, we don’t sketch long family histories, we don’t coach people in skills interactions, we don’t really persuade people that there’s all kinds of reasons why they should change. What on earth is it that we focus on and care about and do in EFT then?”
“Tango is an intimate conversation, where all the non-verbal’s really count. And when it works it’s about this exquisite synchrony, it’s about coordination, openness, responsiveness, it’s sexy because sex is also about synchrony. About moving together. It moves us emotionally because we look at it and two people become one. Just as a mother and child seem to become one in play.
Alan Shore, the attachment theorist says, “Attachment is in essence the right brain regulation of the biological synchrony between organisms. This dance, let’s call it a “neuro- duet”. This is about resonance. Resonance is a term they use in physics when they talk about a sympathetic vibration between two elements that allows these two elements who were just being chaotic around each other to suddenly act in harmony. They become synchronous. They become able to almost read what the other element is gonna do and tune in and become a whole. These dancers can only do this when they feel safe together, safe, balanced, and connected. This is a beautiful dance. This is what I want to create when I do EFT.
I see us learning, getting better and better at creating this. We are trying to create this dance of love and attachment.”
If you’d like to hear Sue deliver this whole address, or any of the Summit 2010 recordings you can check them out here: Summit 2010 Session Video’s/.
