I wonder, what do you do with those difficult couples, the ones that aren’t good therapy candidates because they have mixed agendas?
In order to do good couple therapy we need to assess if both partner’s goals are appropriate and compatible. Are the really invested in the change process or if one is just stringing their partner along and trying not to over rock a sinking ship.
If you’ve ever struggled with assessment, especially with couples who have very varied motivation for making their relationship work, this is your lucky day. Dr. Doherty is a huge contributor to the field of couple therapy. He has written many books and articles for professional audiences as well as for general readers. Consider these helpful titles: Family Therapy: Theories of Psychotherapy, Sourcebook of Family Theories and Methods, Soul Searching: Why Psychotherapy Must Promote Moral Responsibility, Take Back Your Marriage and The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties.
- How to work with high risk couples when one partner wants to save the relationship and the other wants out of the relationship without joining in the pursue/distance pattern.
- How can you help couples prepare to really engage in couple therapy and avoid the common mistakes most therapists make with mixed agenda couples.
- How you can get splitting up off the table long enough, with enough commitment, to see if you can help them engage in meaningful treatment without encouraging the pursuer into more pursuit.
- How to help even if you’re not yet an expert couples therapist to have a much needed speciality practice.
- The two forms of ambivalence that classic mixed agenda couples have so you can offer them the most fitting interventions.
Link to get on the Discernment Counseling training information list so you can learn everything you need to know about working with mixed agenda couples:
Links to Dr. Doherty’s Books:
Take Back Your Marriage, Second Edition: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart
The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties
Take Back Your Kids: Confident Parenting in Turbulent Times
Putting Family First: Successful Strategies for Reclaiming Family Life in a Hurry-Up World
Soul Searching: Why Psychotherapy Must Promote Moral Responsibility
Sourcebook of Family Theories and Methods: A Contextual Approach
Family Therapy (Theories of Psychotherapy)